Tuesday, October 23, 2012

B.M.W.B #43 - Team Work

This week I want to talk about being the kind of team I hope to be. As you'll know I've just had an extended weekend with The Atlas in Melbourne, and while who would turn down a wonderful city break it is much more than that to me.

As a mama of boys I am very aware that they are watching me all the time. Seeing how I talk to The Atlas, how I talk about him, the tone, the volume the words. I am showing them what they will grow up to expect from a wife (and I do hope they have one, one day a long, long time away!!!). I am setting the tone for their understanding of how women feel, behave and think about and towards men.

While in some ways this freaks me out I also think this is something I need to take seriously. The Atlas is an amazing man and a man very deserving of my honour, support, love and delight.

Sometimes he comes home to a grumpy, huffy person I am ashamed to say, and it's not just him I let down by that I also let my boys down.

Getting away together for special couple time is such a treat for our relationship but it is also about being the mama I want to be. A mama who loves her man and puts that relationship first.

When Mama and Papa are on the same team, hand in hand, back to back and laughing together then we are giving our boys a wonderful launching pad and a safe landing-place.

This week being the best mama I can be has meant taking time to delight in the relationship that made this possible and the relationship that will, I hope and pray, continue in a healthy, happy way long after our babies have flown the nest.

This year I am making more of a conscious effort to have quality moments with my boys. B.M.W.B (becoming the mama I want to be)  is my way of recording and hopefully inspiring other mama’s too. 
Simple. Achievable. Intentional: becoming the mama I want to be.
(I realise it is probably very unfashionable and very unPC to talk about being a 'good' wife but actually I just think that is a shameful measure of our culture. I have married a good man and I want to be a good woman to match.)


Jess B said...

Great, great post Miriam. I am leaving this one open so hubby and I can talk about it together when he gets home! Thanks. :)

Miriam said...

Thanks Jess. I really appreciate that comment, so much. x

Jess B said...

:) I don't often have the time (or the right moment of time) to comment on every one of your posts, but I read them all and find your words SO encouraging. So thank YOU! I so wish we lived in the same town so we could have coffee and real-life chats!

Leonie said...

Couldn't agree more. My husband is a good man, a fantastic dad and a wonderful friend and partner. I hope and try to be the same :) And more than that, we hope we are setting a lasting example for our girls in what it is to be loved and treated with respect, care and kindness. x

Miriam said...

me too that would be awesome, we do have a spare room if you ever want a weekend in CHch! :o)

Miriam said...

yes and so few little people get that to grow up with now :-(

Gail said...

Love it - such a great example to set, and a great reminder to all of us that both our men and kids are worth the effort!