I'm not sure I've ever been 'in fashion'. Certainly I've struggled and lost my way from time to time (hello spiral perm and braces at the same time!) I haven't always had a strong sense of what my style is. However I've had a few compliments this week (I do love a good compliment!!) that have made me think a lot about how other people perceive the way I dress.
Let's just start by saying that I don't usually dress like the average mummy in my circles - when someone is describing me to someone who doesn't know me but would have seen me around at school/church/other they describe me by the way I dress ....and then the person pretty much always knows who they are referring too.
As an aside I hang out with a lot of very stylish mama's it's just that I seem to have a unique approach to dressing.
This week 2 different people have said to me 'I love that you wear the things you love all the time. And you don't worry about what other people think.' It really stopped me in my tracks -certainly, I'm not always dressed exactly how I want to be - but it made me think are there people who are dressing in ways they don't like or not dressing the way they would like to?
and if they are, are they doing that because of other people???
I get that we have codes for dressing for work and events but are some of us dressing down for life or dressing more conservatively than we'd like because we feel we can't just have fun with our wardrobes??
Are there times you want to wear your red Dorothy shoes but you don't because other people will disapprove or do you look wistfully at them in the shop window but not buy them because you'll never wear them - even if you'd actually rather like to wear them every day?
The thing that constantly surprises me about the days I dress like I really want to is that although I get the 'I could never wear that' kind of comments from time to time usually I get overwhelmingly positive feedback. People seem to love that I see getting dressed as an occasion. When I turned up to school in my black jeans and a t-shirt the other day one of the dad's made a comment to me about it being out of character. Today someone opened the car window to tell me they loved my shoes.
My clothing does not make or define who I am but it says a lot about how I feel about life and that I have decided to try and dress up and celebrate every day. All around us we observe the quickness and complexity of life. So, if not for yourself, then for the others you share the world with and for the ones who had too few days here to dress up for - let's dress up! :o)
I have a quote on my fridge that says, 'Life is too short not to have a little umbrella in your drink' but today I'm changing that to this:
Thanks for joining me on Wardrobe Wednesday, I so enjoy a peek into your closet and your thoughts. If you are on disqus and you haven't received a comment from me - apologies I find it seems to work for me some days and not others but I do promise I came and read and tried to comment xx Miriam xx
What holds you back from dressing however you'd like to??
Shirt - $ 5 Melbourne op shop tour
Chiffon Scarf - $3 Salvation Army Melbourne
Skirt - $50 on sale Catalyst NZ, about 9 years old
Brooch - had since I was a child
Earrings - Homemade
Shoes - No.1 shoe warehouse (I think $30 had them for about 6 years)
Jacket - $3 Matakana op-shop
Tune in tomorrow for my November dress
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